Would You Give Your Baby Another Mothers Milk?
Thanks to you my baby is no longer hungry.
Thanks to you my baby is no longer gassy.
Thanks to you my baby is sleeping peacefully.
Let me tell you about how you transformed a mother’s guilt and shame into love and appreciation…
My wonderful baby girl arrived and we had a blissful first 5 weeks of bonding and breastfeeding.
Then all of the sudden my breasts were empty of milk. She started crying and was fussy. She wouldn’t sleep. She started losing weight. My mommy gut told me that something was wrong.
I called our ihelpmoms.com lactation consultant who came over and found a tongue and lip tie. I always thought that lip ties were a myth. An excuse moms found not to breastfeed. But here I was listening in disbelief that my new baby girl had tongue and lip ties that were preventing her from latching properly, thus my body decreased it’s breastmilk supply. It was also causing her to throw the milk up as the tongue tie reflex was inhibited. And yes before your mom brain starts throwing a slew of suggestions at me…I have tried the teas, the lotions, the potions, the positions, the pumping….I have tried it all!
We headed into a dentist that did water laser treatment and much to my surprise and dismay the dentist told me that my baby had thrush. Thrush?! My baby? I had no idea what it even was! Most likely it was the formula feeding that we were forced to do to keep her nourished due to my milk supply being so low, that had caused it. I cursed my body frustrated that I couldn’t produce enough for my wonderful baby that deserved my milk.
The dentist refused to do the procedure until the thrush cleared and I was devastated that meant yet ANOTHER week of breastfeeding gone! My milk supply was so low and I was absolutely, completely exhausted bottle feeding formula then breastfeeding then pumping to get my supply up 24 hours a day every 2 hours. I wanted to crawl up into a ball and cry. The guilt, the shame, the sadness of not being able to breastfeed my baby weighed heavy on me.
Just as my daughter was throwing up yet another bottle of formula, your text came across. It read “I have so much milk I have to donate it as I have no more room in my freezer.”
My heart soared with hope. Then I pushed the thought away – that’s crazy to use someone else’s milk! Right? I didn’t want to admit my body was failing my daughter. I sat there for a few more minutes. I realized I was tired of feeling sad. I needed a solution until we could get the tongue tie corrected so she could breastfeed again.
The solution was you. You offered your bags of frozen milk with absolute openness and a beautiful giving spirit. You have been so abundantly blessed with milk and your simple offer literally changed everything for my family. The stress lifted. The sadness evaporated. The exhaustion of breastfeeding then bottle feeding then pumping then cleaning then repeating was replaced with happiness and hope.
My milk, your milk, it doesn’t matter to me as my baby girl is getting nourishing breast milk, she stopped throwing up, she is sleeping calmly, gaining weight and she is best of all healthy.
Tears ran down my face as I checked her weight at over ten pounds today thanks to the bags of milk you donated to me.
I know that I got liquid gold from a woman with a heart of gold.
Thank you my friend, from the bottom of my heart,
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**And yes, I spoke with my health care team to make sure the donor milk was a viable and healthy option.