Working Versus Stay At Home Mom- Battle of the Mom Bloggers

Working Versus Stay At Home Mom- Battle of the Mom Bloggers

Battle of the Mom BloggersThat’s right, LOVES to discuss the stuff most moms won’t!  Today, fellow mom blogger Leah (mom of 6 and founder of go head to head to discuss working moms verses stay at home moms.

th-7My mom had two kids and worked EXTREMELY HARD out of the home, and then when she had me at 42 years of age she worked EXTREMELY HARD in our home as a stay at home mom.  But, interestingly she told me she chose to either work as an employee or later in life volunteer full time as she thought she thought she would go crazy staying home all day. I often wonder if her words had a sub conscious impact on me….

I am a stay at home mom, a working mom and a business owner.  Daily I vacillate wondering if I am making the right decisions for my kids as I am often cross eyed with exhaustion.  My mission to help others always overcomes my fatigue-I am completely passionate in my desire to help moms everywhere to discover great Doctors, Dentists, Lawyers, Doulas, Tutors, Meal Delivery, Grocery Delivery, House Cleaners, Shuttle Services for Kids, Nutrition Consultants, Massage Therapists, Midwives and MORE to Make Motherhood Easier.

Rachel Feldman
Rachel Feldman, Nutrition Consultant and Life Coach helped me here at 8 months pregnant to stay healthy!

I like working on my business, I love connecting with our ihelpmoms providers, I like being home with my kids, I DETEST laundry, I am horrible at cleaning and I like cooking when my toddler decides she can entertain herself.  Thus the life of the Mompreneur is the life for me and it is only possible by utilizing the providers.

So, my answer to the stay at home versus working mom remains in limbo.  I don’t know the answer as I am living both simultaneously and both are extremely hard work. After talking to hundreds of moms, I think the grass is greener on the other side.  Maybe it is just human nature to want what we don’t have.  Maybe the true key is to just BE GRATEFUL.

Our kids are paying attention to everything we do, everything we say and what our actions portray.  Be happy.  Be healthy.  Ask for help where you need it to juggle everything and most of all know that you are not alone in how you feel.

th-7I can tell you from personal experience that while all of the other moms have their kids home on spring break, my toddler is in school this week!  I felt like a complete mom failure today as I dropped her off but I had such a productive work day today while she was a school I actually had no regrets!  So thanks to provider Cambridge School I am able to be a mompreneur! That’s what is here for as we know whether we are staying at home or working or doing both…WE ALL CAN USE SUPPORT AND NEED GREAT HELP AROUND US!  It’s free for moms to search…log on now to!  



Leah and her beautiful family!
Leah and her beautiful family!

I am a stay-at-home mom {SAHM}, I always have been. I quit my job 3 weeks before James {my oldest} was born, and have been at home ever since. I love being a SAHM! When I had James I really didn’t have any friends that worked and had a family. I was brought up with a mom that stayed at home. It was really all I knew. So if you would have asked me 8 years ago what I thought a woman should be doing after she has kids I would have said, that unless you NEED to work, a mom should stay at home. I mean really… why wouldn’t you want to be at home to raise your child, to see the milestones hit, to be there to witness every thing he does??

And then I met a woman… I met her before she had kids. I became friends with her and knew of her struggles to have children. When she did get pregnant I was shocked that she didn’t want to be a SAHM… again… {in my head} that is just what you do!th-12

But watching her has changed my mind! She is the best example of a caring, devoted mom, and a beautiful, powerful working woman.

Being a SAHM is hard…. no we don’t just ‘stay at home’ all day, and just because you come to the door and see us in our pajama’s, it doesn’t mean that we have been vegging all day. Being a SAHM means that we are doing everything to cut costs, and wearing pj pants is just one less thing to wash and mend. And being a SAHM means that most of our day is taken up with/talking to/hanging out with people that are usually a couple feet shorter than us which in itself is exhausting.

Being a Working mom is hard… handling the demands from an employer and those under you, and then coming home and changing coats so you can give yourself to your family for the rest of the night is hard

Leah, amazing mom of 6!
Leah, amazing mom of 6!

Both have their highs and lows. Both are demanding, make us tired and weary, and require us to play many roles…. but both are satisfying, exciting, and rewarding. It just depends on the day and the which side of the line you are on.

{by the way… I put Domestic CEO on every form I fill out that asks for my occupation}