Moms are working harder than ever, so we went to our ihelpmoms.com sex therapist to ask how do we balance the leadership side of ourselves with our feminine side? As a couples therapist with Infinite Intimacy, Rachel enlightens us how we can have the best of both of our powerful worlds!
When women are powerful and strong – hard working daily inside and outside the home, is it important to switch into a more easy going nature upon being mom and wife/partner?
- In short, YES! Absolutely.
- It’s so important to understand the different hats – different roles – that we embody throughout our day, on a daily basis… Although moms can be a boss at work and within the home, it’s important to remember that your children and your partner are not your employees. Yes, children need to be guided, directed and disciplined, but they also need to experience/feel love, nurture and understanding simultaneously. Similarly, many couple’s run into a problem when one partner feels that the other is too controlling and dictating their every move.
What is the difference between masculine and feminine energies?
- Every male and female has BOTH masculine and feminine energies within us, and our dominant energies may not be determined by traditional gender roles/stereotypes.
- “Work mode” often calls out the masculine in us, as having active careers and businesses require us to accomplish tasks, meet deadlines, analyze profits and losses, etc. The masculine energy is very focused on doing, while the feminine energy thrives on being… However, the more we go, go, go and do, do, do, we find ourselves burnt out and often too tired for our children and partners.
- It is essential to find a balance between the two energies to fully experience health and happiness in your life and relationships. Especially if you have a demanding job/career/business, it’s important to learn how to tap into a more relaxing, nurturing, flexible side of yourself.
3 Steps to creating more love and joy in your relationship:
- Mindfulness and Awareness: With ongoing and consistent self-awareness, we are better able to identify which masculine or feminine actions/reactions are not in-line or appropriate for a given circumstance. The more we become aware of how we’re thinking and responding in a given moment, we can begin to shift and change our response, which can often lead to a balance in the energies…Meditate – welcome your emotions without trying to suppress them (when appropriate).
- On your way home or before the kids get home, check-in with yourself: How are you feeling? (Body scan) What’s happening in your body? Is there anywhere that you are holding any stress/tension from work? Are there any clients or projects that you need to mentally “drop off” before you get home or before the kids get home?… reconnecting with you helps break down the barriers of connection with others.
- Nurture yourself as well as your kids: Remember to be kind to yourself, which then transfers over to other members of your family. Show love and affection to your children and spouse. Fill yourself up with fresh foods, water and rest. Take some time to decompress – take a bubble bath…fill the space with positive forms of expression – music, flowers, the arts, etc.
Another great article on how a more peaceful home may boost our children’s brain development! Click here to read!