TOP 7 THINGS I LEARNED THROUGH MY FIRST YEAR OF MOTHERHOOD
Don’t feel bad when veteran moms say things that make you wonder what you are doing ‘wrong’. Being a first time moms is a unique experience. Many moms with older kids forget the sleep deprivation and exhaustion involved in the first year of motherhood. Read on and enjoy these tips, as I know what you are feeling and I am here to help!
- SLEEP WHEN YOUR BABY SLEEPS! I did not listen when everyone told me this and I definitely paid the price. Sleep deprivation is horrible state to live in and I don’t wish it on any mom. The laundry can wait, the dishes can wait. Go on ihelpmoms.com and search for a mothers helper or post partum doula that can lend a helping hand!
- MAKE FROZEN DINNERS AHEAD OF YOUR DELIVERY DATE! Another gigantic mistake I made. I thought my post partum healing would be easy breezy, but NO it wasn’t and I had no food prepared. This time around instead of a baby shower, I am having a frozen dinner making party!
- JOIN A BREASTFEEDING OR MOMMY AND ME GROUP! It is vital to get out of the house. I was scared to go out with a newborn, but I actually found I became a scarier person if I stayed holed up inside my house all day! Check out the Moms Group page on ihelpmoms.com to find a group or start a group near you!
- HIRE A GOOD LACTATION CONSULTANT if you have any desire to breastfeed. It will be the best money you spend to provide FREE nutrition for your baby, the BEST nutrients for you baby and you will be giving your baby brain and body nutrients to boost their immune system that are invaluable. Get the help you need early. Don’t wait to go on ihelpmoms.com and find one!
- KEEP LOOKING FOR GOOD MOM FRIENDS! I have joined a ton of groups, tried a ton of classes, some free like the library, some paid like My Gym. I would go one week and no one would talk to me and I would make myself try again the next week and I would meet the most amazing mom friend I could wish for. Be friendly and don’t give up on meeting mom friends. It’s better than high school though because if you end up not clicking with them you don’t have to see them every day! But it is like dating…feel out like interests, like mindedness and then assess if it’s something you want to invest in.
- BE FLEXIBLE! I have found my transition into motherhood as a type A personality has been a bit rocky. My little girl wanted to eat and sleep when she wanted to, not when I wanted her to. Once I learned to go with the flow a bit more, my life got a lot easier. And don’t get discouraged if your mom friends cancel and rearrange plans… but I have found my best friends and I respect one another and work together to coordinate schedules so we don’t cancel on one another.
- BE THANKFUL! Every night I literally give thanks for my husband, my little girl, my baby growing inside of me and wonderful friends to raise Anjali with. Motherhood is exhausting and joy filled and most of all something to cherish because we can never re-live the moments with our babies. It is proven that happy people are grateful. And I want to be a HAPPY MOM!