The White T-shirt Mom

The White T-shirt Mom

This Mother’s Day is my first without a mom and oddly enough…it is the first Mothers Day that I actually fully understand what motherhood is about.  I get asked all the time how I got through losing her and there is one simple answer…and it all began with a white t-shirt.

My mom wore a white t-shirt nearly every day of her life. Seriously.  Why you might ask? Because she was one of the most humble, simple people on the planet. 
She is a woman that most everyone would walk by without a second glance.  But I hit the absolute jackpot with her as my white t-shirt mom.

My fair skinned, 42 year old mom adopted me from India taking a chance on a four pound impoverished baby.  I was never allowed to be a victim of circumstance, only to look at everyday as an opportunity to do good and make a difference in the world.
She always taught me that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you deal with it.
At the time I didn’t understand it, but now I do.  

She taught me that knowledge was power, going back to school herself in her 50’s!  She quizzed me on flashcards and working on reading and spelling with me non stop.  Anyone can be a pretty female, but she taught me smart women can change the world.
At the time I didn’t understand it, but now I do. 

She would write notes on the people that she met, their travels, their kids, their interests.  She wanted to make sure that she didn’t forget what mattered to THEM.  At the time I didn’t understand, but now I do. 

Even when hard things in life would come my way she always told me to just kill them with kindness.  When my heart was hurting, I didn’t understand, but now I do.

My mom always donated to kids she didn’t even know and education for other people.  At the time I didn’t understand, but now I do.

She spent her whole life driving her kids, cooking for her kids, working while my dad went to college, volunteering, and she told me to always, always figure out a way to follow my own dreams no matter what.  At the time I didn’t understand, but now I do.

We take time to greet the elderly and teach our kids to respect them.  Why you might ask?  

Because I saw people judge my humble, elderly mom wearing her white t-shirt, but underneath it, her heart was solid gold.  She knew her ultimate job as my mom: To prepare me to live a fulfilling life.  

Serving other people.  Giving to other people.  Spreading Kindness.  Loving Your Family.  Being Mindful Of Others.

At the time I didn’t understand the things that she did, but now I see every day she was preparing to give me the secrets to a happy life.  So when people ask me how I got through the gut wrenching, devastation of losing her when she will never really even know my kids, I say what is on my heart…it is my great honor to continue her legacy of unconditional kindness.  

I get it now mom.  It’s not about what life gives us.  It is not about the car, the outfit, what school my kids get into or the job.  
It’s about the love WE GIVE and enjoying the loving connections around us.
I am so grateful that this Mother’s Day I finally understand what being a mom is all about.
So I will proudly wear my white t-shirts, not caring if people ignore me, or pass me by.  Because you taught me it’s all about the HEART.

Happy Mother’s Day Mom.  Love you forever.  Thank you. Thank you.  Thank you.
I will Serve.  Love.  Give. 

**I do have one regret.  I wish I had captured my moms voice and face and being while she was alive.  Make SURE this Mothers Day to download the Dopple App for your mom and dad and ask them questions so they are recorded forever for you and your kids.  Don’t wait.  Trust me.  There may not be tomorrow.
The DOPPLE app will preserve your memories.  

I only wish I had done it with my mom, but now I am honored to pass it on to you. CEO/Founder

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