Stop The Mom Guilt- You Deserve To Be Happy
HOW DO I DROP THE MOM GUILT?
Mom guilt is usually associated with something you’re doing for yourself instead of or for your family. Or it could even mean something you don’t do for them. The doing or not doing can be intentionally or unintentionally. Whatever the case, I think we can drop the mom guilt by asking ourselves some simple questions.
Am I doing this to hurt my family?
Of course not.
Is it a bad thing to take care myself (mind,body,&soul)?
Never. Taking care of myself actually helps me parent from the highest version of myself.
By asking these questions we can prove to ourselves that there is no need to have guilt. It’s a process though. Some of us have spent years feeling mom guilt. Each time we demystify the guilt brings us closer to getting rid of it.
So baby steps, start nurturing your mind, body and soul and when you feel the guilt, simply ask yourself these 2 questions.
I FEEL LIKE I LOST MYSELF IN MOTHERHOOD. HOW DO I FIND MYSELF AGAIN?
You can start with asking yourself some
Who am I?
What do I enjoy doing?
What would I do if time and money were not an issue?
What makes me happy?
It’s important to remember you don’t have to mention your children or family, that’s a given. If you get stuck on a question, you can ask yourself what you liked before you had kids/family. Even of you dont like the same things it may help you figure out what you do like simply by comparison.
Once you’ve made a list of these things, go back and choose 1 thing you can start taking baby steps with. Make it a MUST. Meaning commit to doing this one thing X amount of times a month.
When/if mom guilt rears it’s ugly head, you now know what to do.
You’ll notice that the more you get back into doing the things you love or working toward a goal you will start to feel more like yourself again. The reason why we feel we’ve lost ourselves is because we feel like we can ONLY be a mom and do “mom things.” That’s a lie. Being a mom requires you to be even more of you. We often preach to our children that its okay to be unique and they should do the things they enjoy, but forget that we are their prime example. They see us daily and if we want to guide them to follow their hearts, we must also follow ours.
HOW CAN I START LIVING A MORE POSITIVE LIFE?
Gratitude is the one of the highest emotions on the vibrational chart. Start your day with gratitude and end it with gratitude.
I start with 3 things, before i pick up my phone or my feet touch the ground. These can be as simple as “I’m grateful for my blankets because their so soft and comfy.” Then 3 things in the evening. In my house we do this as a family and it works as not only a good way to practice together but it has also proven to shift the energy if someone is having a bad day. Everyone has a turn saying their 3 things out loud at the dinner table.
Another thing you can do is to stop listening to or watching things that aren’t positive. I stopped listening to Ryan’s Roses. Feed your brain with positivity instead. I exhanged Ryans Roses helpful podcast, audiobooks, and motivational speeches on youtube.
If you just do these 2 things, you will notice a difference.
There will be things that happen, but when you feed your mind with good things it will be be better equipped to tackle tough situations.
Thank you again!! I’m so excited for this!