Stop Tantrums In Your Home

Stop Tantrums In Your Home

Between laundry, cooking, cleaning, driving, working, and so much more, Motherhood can be absolutely exhausting!

As The Honest Mom, we tell the truth here at ihelpmoms.com- and let’s face it dealing with kids tantrums leaves us reaching for the wine, running for the hills or wondering what the heck we are doing ‘wrong’!  So thankfully we have amazing ihelpmoms.com family therapists, mom coaches and parenting coaches to turn to to ask:
HOW DO WE STOP TANTRUMS AND GET OUT OF THE HOUSE EASIER IN THE MORNINGS!

  1. STOP. DROP. AND ROLL.
    • STOP.  Seriously.
      Remember you are a TEACHER and just observe where is the anger/frustration coming from.

      • Are they tired, hungry, overstimulated?
    • DROP down to their level. For example just because we think it should take 5 minutes to get out to the house kids need more time.
    • ROLL into helping them with the language.
      • They cannot deal with how they are feeling in that moment.  “I see you are feeling sad that your shirt is in the laundry and that it’s dirty.  You can choose anything else you would like to wear and when we get home can you help me wash your shirt so it will be ready to go tomorrow?”  Give her a plan of action that they can help with.
      • Give OPTIONS.  Frustration comes from a place of powerlessness.  So give them control back so they can make choices to move forward.
  2. Set expectations AHEAD of time so you kids understand what toys can travel outside the house and what toys stay inside the house.
    • Give your kids a 5 minutes heads up BEFORE you are going to leave so they can ‘pack up’ and get prepared what they need to.
    • Remember that kids toys, lovies, gadgets are an extension of who they believe they are so taking them away abruptly or not understanding their connection to them can be confusing to our little people.  See point one about setting expectations AHEAD of time to what they are allowed to take outside of the house.
  3. Don’t try to win the power struggle!
    • It’s not conducive to building strong relationships to try to control and manipulate.
    • If you want to create independent, productive kids it is vital to understand that humans are created with two basic needs to FEEL LOVED AND FREEDOM.
    • See yourself as a teacher of life for your kids!  We don’t have to parent like our parents did saying “Do it because I am your mom!”.   Our kids are stronger willed, more determined and if we ENLIST our children and see your family unit as a team you won’t have power struggles! (Great example of avoiding the power struggle in our MOM LOVE SHOW video at 10 minute mark @ihelpmoms)
    • Don’t underestimate the power of simply communicating with your kids.  Not yelling in frustration, but just talking to them as people.  They are smart.
      • IDEAS FOR GIVING YOUR KIDS POWER AND CONTROL TO ENLIST THEM:
        • Stock a fridge drawer with snacks that are great for your kids to get on their own
        • Bedtime and Morning checklists you can just print off your computer and create a race or make it fun to see how fast they can do their checklist!
  4. A great morning starts the night before!
    • Have them help you prepare the night before: clothes, shoes, lunches, socks, school supplies
    • Give they PLENTY of time in the morning.
    • OBSERVE your kids patterns…do they do better watching a cartoon or is it distracting? Do they actually LIKE the breakfast you prepare?
    • As a last resort…if they won’t put the shirt/shoes etc. on just bring it in the car with you and let them wear those pjs out the door.
  5. Meet our ihelpmoms.com Therapist on Thursday, January 18 at Board and Brush for our South Florida Moms Night Out!
    Your chance to ask any questions you have about parenting, kids, marriage/relationships to this amazing therapist!
    Drink Wine, Enjoy A Moms Night Out and Make an Incredible Craft Sign For Your Home!
    Register Here: https://boardandbrush.com/sunrise/6304
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