OMG, I Yelled at My Child!
First and foremost, it happens.
You are in good company as every parent will yell at their child in their lifetime, as we are all human. Don’t feel as if you are a terrible parent, you’re not!
What is the best way to discipline your infuriating child when conflict arises? NOT BY YELLING. A study in the September issue of the Journal of Child Psychology suggests that yelling is really bad for children. Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh found that “harsh verbal discipline”—cursing, insults, and shouting—can be as harmful to kids as hitting or spanking.
What can you do?
- Have realistic expectations of your child. Know who they are, where they are at emotionally and appreciate their unique personality.
- Plan all your activities and outings ahead of time. If you do the best you can, all will run smoothly.
- Recognize your triggers. Yelling, for many parents, becomes a conditioned If you feel tightness in the chest, rapid breathing, clenching of teeth or fists, you are on your way to yelling.
- Slow down, take a deep breath and if you need to, go take a “time out” for yourself!
By Dr. Cindy Bunin, LMFT