How Reality TV Helped Me To Be A Better Mom This Week
After I get both girls down to sleep, the laundry folded, the kitchen clean, there is nothing better than sitting down for a few brief moments with reality TV. It never fails however that 2 minutes later my husband always comes in to say ‘why the heck do you watch these crazy shows’?
I pondered this question of why these shows are my happy place to unwind. I think it is probably the same reason you read this blog. It is easy for everyone to pretend like everything is perfect. All day it seems like all the moms I know have the perfect family, happy kids, amazing meals, and have it all together. Then I turn on Bravo and I am able to see the lives of people that actually don’t have it all together and I feel a sense of relief that I am not the only imperfect one!
Lately, however I have actually learned some great lessons from these shows. So for all the ladies who have skeptical husbands like mine, show them this blog to defend our small piece of mommy guilty pleasure that we find in Reality TV! Here are the top 3 lessons I learned this week!
1. I loved Todd Chrisley from Chrisly Knows Best, stating that the more blessed their family is, the more he appreciates the simple things in life. What an amazing take away. The bottom line is, there will always be someone richer, someone prettier, someone with a bigger house or nicer car. I am not saying not to seek to achieve and better yourself, but I do think it is important to realize ‘stuff’ will never bring happiness. Watch the movie Bucket List and you’ll see Jack Nichlaus illustrate this very principle. If we spend our lives chasing what we don’t have, we often miss out on the blessings we do have.
2. The Real Housewives of New York City honestly scares this Oregon girl. BUT I did appreciate when Bethanny said that she isn’t angry at her past, it is just a part of her that made her who she is today. What I see in Bethanny is an incredibly smart business women, loving mom, a courageous person and strong female. In my own life I can really relate to what Bethanny said. I was adopted. I could ruminate on the fact that my mom gave me up, that I was unwanted in an orphanage, and spend the rest of my life wondering who my real mom is. Instead, I op to move forward in life, to create a new family and to be the best mom I can be. I can’t change the past. I can only create my future.
3. My final show I learned from was Kardashians. Yup. That’s right, I learned a great lesson on life from Kim Kardashian West. She was talking to a psychic about whether he saw her having another baby. On this phone call, she realized she needed to see herself with a baby, she needed to visualize the positive outcome she desired, not ruminate on what she didn’t have. For the rest of your day, focus on only positive thoughts and positive outcomes. Then try doing that for a week. Then try doing it for 22 days. See what happens….What do you have to lose by focusing on the good???
So thanks Todd, Bethanny and Kim for putting your life out there, for your willingness to let all of us tired mommies zone out and enjoy some much needed ‘me’ time. I really did learn alot from all of you this week and most of you are all reminders that dreams do come true so this momprenuer is going to dream big as I work to expand ihelpmoms.com throughout the nation! Stay tuned for ihelpmoms.com BIG announcement coming soon as we expand our mission to Make Motherhood Easier!