How Can I Keep Myself, My Husband and My Kids Happy?
I want to avoid divorce, I want to have great communication with my spouse and I want our kids to see a model and experience a strong family dynamic.
So instead of just ‘hoping’ and wishing these things happen, I decided to do something about it.
Friday I went to a workshop to learn from a Marriage and Family Therapist. During the course of the night, I wondered how therapy became so taboo. Athletes have coaches, kids have teachers, employees have bosses…moms deserve support too and therapists are trained specialists that actually care about seeing people live happy, productive, more peaceful lives. They are so gifted in being non-judgmental and are specifically educated to help families communicate better.
Here at ihelpmoms.com I wanted to share the tips I learned that will help my marriage make it for the long haul and also make me a better wife, mom and person.
- You can’t take care of anyone if you don’t take care of yourself.
- This one is HUGE for moms. Mentally, it is vital to talk to one of our ihelpmoms.com therapists if you are feeling overwhelmed, angry, frustrated, resentful, or just want to communicate better. There is no need to struggle silently! Taking care of yourself can also mean getting a massage at Zenerations of Boca, Belly Love or Custom Spa 27. It can mean treating yourself to getting dinner delivered by The Thymely Chef or Fit Food Fresh. Our ihelpmoms.com providers are here to help YOU!
- Date time 1x/week- Prioritize it
- It doesn’t have to be something big. It can be something simple. But no matter what, get dressed up, remember to date the person you care for. Make an EFFORT!
- Acknowledge your husband or partner when you greet each other and be affectionate. MEN ARE PRETTY SIMPLE REALLY.
- Treat others the way you want to be treated. Sounds simple right? Give it a try this week and don’t expect anything in return. Just do it because it’s the loving thing to do.
- Rituals matter.
- Ask everyone in your husband or partner what the best part of their day was or the most fun or silly part for your kids. Take 10 minutes a day to get off the cell phone, turn off the TV and really talk to your loved ones.
- Communicate when you are not mad.
- I thought this one was interesting. I am humble enough to say that when I nag, my husband withdraws and then I nag more….it’s called the crazy cycle for a reason! So, I loved the concept of just simply communicating when things are not heated, therefore things won’t build up.
The greatest tip of all I remember from this workshop is that by spending the time to make your marriage better, it will make you a better parent! Today can be the day that you choose to make small changes to build a positive relationship that can affect your kids and family for a lifetime!
ihelpmoms.com will be hosting an online webinar with our marriage and family therapists, so make sure to create a FREE mom account at www.ihelpmoms.com to stay updated!
If you have more interest in the therapist’s workshop I attended, here is her website:) http://www.facetofacetherapy.com/
Jennifer Lagrotte, Doctorate in Marriage & Family Therapy