Bone dog tired.
F*CK! I am tired. Bone dog tired.
I am so tired I feel like I am back in my twenties, hung over and unable to pick my head up off the couch. Wait, except, the hangover didn’t come from drinking, dancing and have fun, as I have a 20 week old fetus kicking me inside at all hours and two little girls 3 and under running circles around me. There, I said what most moms will never admit behind the fake smiles and perfect Facebook photos.
I drink yet another cup of coffee, (Sorry unborn baby) and try to get some clarity on why I am feeling so overwhelmingly tired so I can fix myself.
1. I need to plan my schedule better.
Pregnancy is taxing as it is, on top of other kids and wifey duties and right now I am launching a TV show, three books and a HUGE event for all of my ihelpmoms.com providers.
As moms if we can get a look ahead for the week at our schedule, (I admit I still use an actual planner) we can better plan not to do the big, taxing commitments back to back to back.
2. I need to meal plan every Sunday. Seriously put a reminder in the phone to just DO IT!
Moms always leave themselves last to be taken care of. I was tired because I was running on EMPTY. I find myself absolutely starving on busy days and running to the store last minute. This means our budget goes through the roof and then my husband and I have to have the uncomfortable budget conversation. Poor planning = More stress. (that no moms need!)
3. Sometimes you just have to admit it. My husband took one look at me and said are you okay? I told him the flat out truth. “I am really tired.”
And the magical thing is because I rarely don’t go pedal to the medal, he got his own lunch and understood I needed a breather. I wasn’t complaining or nagging. I just told the truth.
And even better that night he held my hand and told me he didn’t give me enough credit for how much I am doing this pregnancy without complaining and how much he appreciates the hard work I do.
Chronic overload and stress is unhealthy. As moms we are often thrust into it naturally to take care of the tiny humans we created.
But I believe over the long term it will cause unhappiness and maybe even more dangerously set a bad example for our kids of a stressed out monster mom.
So, take it from what I learned the hard way this week. It feels good to admit I am not supermom and employ the above strategies to actually enjoy motherhood!