Battle of the Moms Topic: Breastfeeding Sucks

Battle of the Moms Topic: Breastfeeding Sucks

I bet you clicked this link to see why I would post that Breastfeeding Sucks.  Well, I am literally having the breastmilk sucked out of me double time as I nurse and pump simultaneously! Read on to hear TWO MOMS perspectives on their very different breastfeeding journeys as we introduce our BATTLE OF THE MOM BLOGGERS!

Yup- this is me pumping while bottle feeding as I try to balance my life right now! HA!
Yup- this is me pumping while bottle feeding as I try to balance my life right now! HA!

From Michelle, Mom of 2 Founder of ihelpmoms.com: Tongue Ties Are REALLY Frustrating!  Nobody ever really talks about it and I feel like I have been hit by a ton of bricks…and then run over by a truck I am so tired.

My milk supply came in great, baby nursed beautifully.  I was in heaven, as my first baby was so difficult to breastfeed.  Then week 5 hit and my new baby started losing weight, my breasts were void of milk and she was spitting up.  It was so frustrating.  So many times I just wanted to start formula feeding.  Thankfully I was able to call our ihelpmoms.com lactation consultant to come help me.  Upon checking the baby she diagnosed a tongue tie.  I felt devastated when we discussed the plan to give the baby formula until I could build my breasts back with milk.  I felt sad, and SO guilty that I couldn’t provide for my child.  This week has been really difficult as we wait for our appointment to get the tongue tie corrected via laser.  I have had to nurse, then give a bottle then pump to get the baby nutrients and try to increase my dwindling breastmilk supply.

Source is Grip Tight
Source is Grip Tight

So many times I have wanted to give up.  But I LIKE BREASTFEEDING!  So many sleepless nights I cried wanting to just go to bottle feeding formula, but then day by day my supply increased, the lactation consultant taught me how to nurse her to stop the reflux and now we are doing better.  It took a few days but now I see light at the end of the tunnel.

Bottom line I learned that it’s MY baby. It’s a mothers PERSONAL choice what to do.  But I truly don’t think that breastfeeding moms should be made to feel bad by non breastfeeding moms and vice versa.  Feed your baby.  That is all. And I highly recommend lactation consultants if you do want to breastfeed!

From Leah, Mom of 6: First I want to say that I think breast milk is the best thing for babies, but sometimes it’s not the best things for moms.

When I got pregnant the first time I had high hopes of nursing my baby… and that was about as far as I got on that thought. I wasn’t ever around nursing moms, and I really didn’t know anything about it. My first was born and we struggled for 6 months to nurse… never successfully.

Source: Babyology
Source: Babyology

There was always pain and he never seemed to be satisfied. Then it seemed to go down hill will all my babies. Part of it was me, and looking back part of it was them, they were tongue tied or had lip ties but nobody every told me… and I didn’t know what to look for. The realization for me came with our fifth boy as I was dealing with postpartum depression and trying to nurse, and just hurting. None of the other boys could touch or hug me; I couldn’t stand to be touched by anyone. The phrase “if momma ain’t happy, than no one is happy” came into my head. I was sacrificing my relationship with every other person in my family to try to nurse. The next day I got a bottle and some formula. For me nursing wasn’t worth it.

My oldest is now 11 years old, and he is a happy healthy {getting too tall for me} young man. All of my boys are wonderful, healthy kids, and I love watching them hold their sister, who is 8 months old, feeding her a bottle. I love watching them make faces at each other and seeing them bond in that way. I support women who breastfeed 100%, but I will also stand up for those mom that choose not to, who are happy to fill up a bottle for their little one. I love the freedom that I have with handing someone else a bottle. I love that I can leave my babies with other people and know that they are going to be fed. I love that I don’t ever have to change my diet or stop eating something that I like because my little one has an allergy to it. The most important thing is that our babies are being fed, how they actually get it really doesn’t matter.

So to wrap up this Battle of the Mom Bloggers: 

*We agree Breastmilk is scientifically proven to be superior
*We both desired to breastfeed
*We both had issues and want to be surrounded by great resources like our experts on ihelpmoms.com!
*We agree that is it your baby, your choice.  Do what you need to do physically and emotionally to feed your baby.

Make sure to check out Leah’s Blog: http://www.thedogsaboytoo.blogspot.com