Anxiety and Motherhood

Anxiety and Motherhood

I grew up all of my life with a mom what worried non-stop.  She died worrying.  She was an amazing mom in so many ways, but being around her constant state of anxiety definitely impacted me ESPECIALLY WHEN I HAD KIDS OF MY OWN.  I have had to consciously stop this cycle of being raised in a state of anxiety and thanks to our Family Therapist Joy Acaso we have 4 great insights to share today to help moms decrease stress, and find more peace.

Is there such thing as separation anxiety in adults?

What does that even look like? Separation Anxiety exists in adulthood. It’s a bit easier to identify in children. When Mom or Dad try to give the baby to someone else, they start crying. School aged children may throw a fit about going to school or being left with the babysitter. But separation anxiety tend to manifest differently with adults. Some signs and symptoms can include isolation, withdrawal, irritability, lack of focus and even guilt just to name a few. This type of anxiety is very specific in that it’s when Mom feels bad for leaving the children behind or her loved ones in general.

We know that anxiety is a sign of a healthy brain. When does it become unhealthy?

Anxiety is a sign of a healthy brain. If you’re a mom and you experience anxiety from leaving your loved ones behind it’s also a sign that you have an emotional and social connection with your children. Nonetheless, when anxiety gets in the way of your day to day activities, your other relationships, or your work flow then it’s a sign that it’s becoming unhealthy.

When you begin to frequently feel guilty for leaving your loved ones and you only feel any sense of relief once you’re with them, it’s unhealthy. In adults, separation anxiety tend to be rooted more in control issues or irrational perceptions. If you are experiencing excessive worry or overly cautious view of the world, you have to get to the root of it.

What are practical/healthy ways adults can manage separation anxiety?

Anxiety is an individualized experience. First, it is important to identify your specific feelings. Anxiety can include nervousness, overwhelm, distress, fear, worry and panic among other things. Once you’ve labeled your feelings, you must quantity it. On a scale of 0 to 10, with 10 being the highest, rate your feelings. If you are at a 6 and rising, it’s time to ask a professional to help you process your thoughts. They can draw these things out in very specific and beneficial ways. After you understand how intense your feelings are, ask yourself if the things that you’re anxious about is 100% accurate. 

We know what it feels like to suffer in silence.  At we want to provide you the best resources to love the life you are living.  Email our Anxiety Specialist and Family Therapist at 

On A Misson To Make Motherhood Easier,
Michelle and Joy
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